Overcoming relationship conflict and disconnection together
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Couples Counseling
Sound like you?
There is nothing more heartbreaking than when your partner starts to feel like a stranger. You aren’t sure what to do, where to turn to. You don’t want to give up, and you want to feel understood and deeply in love again.
In your uncertainty, you keep asking your partner in different ways (spoken or unspoken)
“Are you there for me?”
“Can I count on you?”
You have been trying to resolve your marriage issues, but keep getting stuck in a loop, with the same fights over and over.
Because you have been hurt by your partner, the only thing that comes out of your mouth is frustration, criticism, or cold silence. Leaving your partner feeling that they’ve failed (once again), and they then become defensive, critical, or shut down. Then, both of you feel unhappy and hopeless, stuck in this all-too-familiar and never-ending vicious cycle.
You may find yourself:
Not asking for your partner’s help and feeling tired of doing everything yourself.
Pulling away emotionally as you're tired of feeling hurt and misunderstood.
Becoming more short-tempered or shutting down as the despair and resentment grow.
Worrying and feeling concerned about the future of your relationship.
Perhaps your conflicts have led to bigger or more frequent fights, and the distance has grown, causing you to think about divorce. And even though you are both smart and successful people, you still seem to be stuck. You have probably tried everything you can think of to improve the relationship, and are wondering if there is anything left to try.
How I can help
It may feel impossible now, but you can save your marriage - if you're both willing to put in the work.
I provide Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) because I know it works.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the #1 research-validated relationship therapy and the ONLY couple therapy recommended by the American Psychological Association to help improve relationships. EFT revolutionized marriage counseling and research shows that 70 to 75 percent of couples who go through EFT recover from distress and are happy in their relationships.
Did you hear that? This is hopeful news, and it means that you, too, can find a way back to each other. My approach is that neither you nor your partner are “the problem,” but it's simply the cycle or pattern that can be fixed.
Consider the Benefits of Marriage Counseling
Identify the root of the problems you’re experiencing.
Understand how you and your partner relate to one another and the patterns you get stuck in.
Increase your ability to be emotionally vulnerable with each other and communicate more clearly.
Learn the tools that will help resolve your problems, so you can feel satisfied and secure in your relationship.
Here’s what we’ll do together
Create a sense of safety and work towards being vulnerable with each other, where you both feel deeply understood and empathized with by one another.
We are going to dive deep and examine what is truly fueling your arguments and the disconnection that keeps you feeling distant in your marriage. We will explore the underlying emotions and longings that are at the core of the cycle you are stuck in. Work on changing your communication to be more effective and transparent. It will also be crucial to rebuild trust in the relationship, especially if there has been a betrayal. Marriage therapy will also address sexual intimacy so you can reconnect intimately.
In marriage counseling, you'll learn to communicate your thoughts and feelings more clearly and improve your ability to understand and empathize with one another. The therapeutic process, over time, helps you create a secure relationship bond in your marriage.
Let’s schedule your consultation for couples therapy -You have three steps to take right now.
✺ 1. Book a Complimentary Consultation
Use the link below to book a 20-minute consultation. Get your questions answered and make sure it’s a good fit.
❇ 2. Get the support you need.
Work with your therapist to develop and practice relationship skills. Together you’ll develop the habits you need to feel close and connected in your relationships.
✴ 3. Feel connected and secure again.
You’ll feel emotionally safe and satisfied in your relationships again, that way you’ll be ready to handle whatever life throws at you.
Note:
If we aren’t the right fit together or if I’m unable to assist you, I’ll refer you to someone who can.
Questions? I’ve got answers.
Frequently asked questions —
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Many approaches to couples therapy focus on communication skills or problem-solving. EFT goes deeper by uncovering the emotional patterns beneath the conflict. When partners can understand and respond to each other’s core emotions, they naturally improve communication and reduce conflict. The goal is lasting change in how you experience each other, not just temporary fixes.
If you’d like to learn more about EFT, you can visit the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
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Sessions are collaborative conversations where both partners have space to share. I guide you to slow down recurring arguments, explore what’s really happening emotionally, and practice new ways of reaching for each other. Over time, you’ll feel more understood, more connected, and better able to handle challenges together.
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Every couple is unique, but EFT is considered a short-term model, often lasting between 12–20 sessions and up to one to one and a half years is standard to work through all the stages.
For complex cases these couples may be in therapy for a number of years working on healing.
We’ll move at the pace that feels right for you.
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No. Couples therapy can strengthen a good relationship, help with big life transitions, or improve communication before problems escalate. Many couples use therapy as a way to invest in their relationship, not just repair it.
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Johnson, S. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown and Company.
Johnson, S. (2019). The hold me tight workbook: A couple’s guide for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown Spark.